"LET" Your Conversation

Adam and Eve had a perfect marriage, but based on a conversation, things took a very bad turn for the worse. Conversation has a way of changing things. You can have a made up mind and then based on a conversation you can change your opinion, your action, and therefore your destiny. Nobody expects a perfect marriage, but if the vision that we have for our marriage is going to even have a chance at manifestation we need to reevaluate our conversation.

Conversation is multi-dimensional involving more than what we say. It involves our words, conduct, and character. What we say impacts what we do and what we do determines who we become. Stated another way, our speech leads to our actions and our actions develop our character. So for the sake of our marriages, we have to take our words, actions, and character and make some necessary adjustments.

The first three words of Hebrews 13:5 are “Let your conversation…”. We don’t typically think about our conversation. When it comes to what we say we just say it. When it comes to our actions, we just do it. When it comes to character it just is what it is. And since our speech, actions, and character are imperfect we have to begin to let or allow something to influence them. The Bible tells us to “let”. That means we have the power not to let; it’s a conscious decision. If you knock on my door, I have the power and have to make a conscious decision to let or allow you in or not.

Marriages suffer because we don’t “let” our conversation. “This is just how I talk. This is just how I act. This is just who I am.” That’s our conversation and we expect our spouse to just accept it even though it may be offensive and abusive. This behavior is indefensible and will ultimately destroy your marriage. Don’t get it twisted. It’s not your spouse’s fault. Nothing will change until YOU let, allow something to influence your conversation (words, actions and character).

The word conversation in Hebrews 13:5 comes from the Greek word “Tropos” which means a turn or to turn. In other words, if we don’t let our conversation be influenced, it won’t change, it won’t turn. We’ll still talk, act, and be the same way and be clueless as to why we are in divorce court. When we refuse to change, and say, “this is just the way I am”, people will look at us as characters rather than talk about our character.

Here’s a nugget for you: While your covenant marriage is ordained of God, it will be sustained by your willingness to “let your conversation” with your spouse be enhanced, seasoned, changed, and turned by the word of God.

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